If you’re a dude in college and girls don’t seem interested in going out with you, try posting a bunch of condescending, passive-aggressive fliers all over your campus, lecturing women for dating jerks instead of Nice Guys like you. That’ll work.
That must have been the thought process that went through some loser’s head at New Mexico State University, because a student named Megan discovered one such message on her dorm bulletin board, taped up with black duct tape:
I get it.
You don’t want a pleasant evening chat.
You don’t want a gentleman to walk you to your car.
You don’t want a friendly dude to help you carry your groceries… or hold open the door… or crush the life out of other men that would do you harm.
Fine - fear the good guys… I guess we’ll have to just suffer through watching you get broken over and over by the scum you think you love.
But I want you to know – it’s not easy and it hurts to see you fall.
Give the good guys a chance to help you be less afraid of the world.
First of all, ew. Ew ew ew, that’s so creepy. And how do you go from holding open a door for a girl to crushing the life out of someone, for heaven’s sake?
More importantly, everyone knows by now that the way you deal with passive-aggressive anonymous notes is to post one of your own, and Megan was definitely up to the task.
“Dear Sir,” she said, already being far more polite than he deserved at that point, “if you’re watching some girl you like getting hurt by another guy STOP WHINING ABOUT IT AND DO SOMETHING. Don’t leave some anonymous note on a dorm wall. If you know someone is being hurt DO. SOME. THING.
“If you want to play the ‘good guy’ you need to rethink you intentions. If you’re only doing it for gratification, then you aren’t being the good guy. Did Batman give up on Gothan because people weren’t thanking him for saving the city?”
She went on to write that what women really want is to have their desires and boundaries respected, and for people to recognize that women can do things on their own and don’t need a dude to coddle and protect them. “You want to be a gentleman and a good guy? Start with changing the way you and other men see women. We aren’t fragile things you need to defend.”