TikTok user @jojo_xoxox101, who goes by Chelsea, has been showing what it is like to leave an abusive relationship on TikTok. These incredibly heartbreaking videos show her journey as she tries to leave the abuse. In a viral video posted on October 6th, she shows her boyfriend looking up and researching how to poison someone. She explains that she cannot get away from him, though she tries. In other videos, she documents her experience and her day-to-day life as someone trying to leave an abusive situation.
Many of the videos showed immediate concern for Chelsea and her wellbeing, instructing and encouraging her to reach out to the police, family, and to monitor what they eat and if it could be in contact with the boyfriend. In other videos, she shows the yelling and fighting that she deals with. In one video she explains that she cannot even go to the bathroom without him following her or that she has spent five days without sleep because the boyfriend would not stop accusing her or interrogating her for something she did not do.
In another video, she shows that leaving an abusive relationship is hard. Often, when women come forward about the abuse they’ve experienced or endured, many seem to not believe them or say that they should have just left. However, abusers are often incredibly manipulative and convince you to stay. In cases that manipulation does not work, many abusers result in physically abusing or threatening someone, making it much harder to “just leave.” Chelsea addresses this in a video of her boyfriend trying to knock down a door with the caption “Just leave they said, it’s your fault they said. This is what leaving an abusive relationship looks like.”
Since these videos have been posted on October 8, 2021, Chelsea has not updated anyone, which is causing support. Her TikTok comments are flooded with good wishes and hope that she is okay.