Traits men find unappealing in women over 40

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Summary:

  • Men seeking women beyond 40 prioritize maturity, love, and authenticity over physical appearance. Negative qualities and behaviors can silently drive them away.

  • Constant negativity, emotional unavailability, and rigid expectations can hinder relationships with men over 40. Vitality, openness, and growth are key.

  • Drawing parallels with the past, being overly critical, and lacking playfulness can impact relationships negatively. Emotional balance and positivity are crucial.

There is always less attraction with appearance than with energy, attitudes, and emotional attachment at any age. Most of the men who date women who are beyond 40 years are seeking maturity, love, and genuineness. What normally repels them is not the age but some of their behaviors or attitudes that may have a silent separating effect. They are not negative qualities, and even most of the people do not know that they exhibit them. 

 

Constant Negativity

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It is heavy to think about problems, complaints, or what is going wrong constantly. Emotional balance and optimism tends to attract men. Excessive negativity kills the bond within a short time.

 

Being emotionally unavailable 

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Other women develop meaningful emotional walls following the past hurt. Although this is comprehensible, emotional distance may seem like indifference. Openness helps trust grow.

 

Drawing parallels between Everything and the Past.

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The present can be made smaller by mentioning former lovers or how it was. Men want to feel chosen now. The past does not allow new connections.

 

Rigid Expectations

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Being too attached to things the way they need to be can restrict connectivity. Men tend to appreciate comfort more than quality.

 

Little Energy or Lack of Vitality.

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It is not about physical power, but emotional involvement. Lack of interest or boredom may be rejection. The interest and passion are appealing at any age.

 

Over-Critical Attitude

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It is stressful to keep on correcting, judging, or pointing out flaws. Men are likely to push away criticism. Civil communication is essential.

 

Avoiding Growth or Change

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It is unproductive to shun new experiences or develop emotionally. Men tend to value transparency to change. Expansion makes relationships vibrant.

 

Playing the Victim Too Often

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It is a good thing to share pain but it is also overwhelming to live in a victim mentality. Men are drawn to resilience. Connection is motivated by strength.

 

The requirement to get Continuous Assurance

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Overassurance-seeking is emotionally draining. Confidence is appealing as it is a safe feeling. Balance is key.

 

Using Independence as Armor

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It takes a strong hand to be independent and it doesn’t take a lot of shutting the door. Men just desire to be needed emotionally. Exposure creates intimacy.

 

Lack of Playfulness

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It is too serious, which deprives joy. Laughter creates bonding. Frivolity maintains attraction.

 

Inner anger 

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The transfer of anger in the past life can be transferred to the relationship. Men pick up emotional weight very easily. Connection is created by healing.

 

The attraction past 40 is more in the presence, emotional wellbeing, and mutual energy, rather than perfection. Minor changes in consciousness may cause a significant variation in the way connection inherently occurs.

 

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