TikTok Creator Drew Afualo Addresses Viral X Thread On Men ‘Hating Their Girlfriends’

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Drew Afualo built a platform on TikTok around taking down toxic masculinity and calling out misogyny online. Afualo’s mission recently culminated in her popular podcast “The Comment Section”, which offers deeper dives into these issues, and guest appearances from fellow digital creators. Now, a viral X thread about men who reportedly “start hating” their girlfriends has caught her attention.

The thread was first posted by an X user named Luu (@sk1tguru), and read “that phase where you slowly start hating your girlfriend is crazy.” A slew of predominantly young men began to respond, listing a series of behaviors that they “hated” in their girlfriends, and the great lengths they would go to in order to not appear villainous in the impending breakup.

Additionally, the thread appeared to attempt to justify men’s toxic behaviors while in relationships.

The Thread

The complaints included good morning text messages, checking in on their partners’ mental health, a desire to cheat and not get caught, and various insults on their respective girlfriends’ physical appearance. Overall, the thread reflected a dark series of manipulative interpersonal relationship tactics.



The Reactions

Drew Afualo attends the Los Angeles premiere of "Only Murders In The Building" Season 2 at DGA Theater Complex on June 27, 2022 in Los Angeles, California.
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – JUNE 27: Drew Afualo attends the Los Angeles premiere of “Only Murders In The Building” Season 2 at DGA Theater Complex on June 27, 2022 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images)


The disturbing thread led to a number of strong reactions from young women, many of whom were gravely disappointed at what appeared to be a mass opinion among men.

Others felt it was an immature view point, encouraging those who are unhappy to resolve the issue or break up with their partners.

Of course, the combat then ensued. Some went as far as questioning if the men who appeared so gravely unhappy in their relationships with women may actually fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

As the thread raised issues of misogyny, Afualo entered the comment section. The creator expressed that the thread appeared to be predominantly composed of young men who have likely never had a girlfriend, and simply consumed misogynistic content online. Additionally, the TikTok creator encouraged young women to use the thread as “inspiration to never date a man like that,” and empathized with women affected by the dynamics described in the thread.


happy friday LMFAOOOOOOO #fyp

♬ original sound – Drew Afualo

Afualo then made a follow up to her initial statement, discussing the dangers of men finding brotherhood in the abuse of women. Many of the topics discussed relate back to alt right extremists.


Replying to @Roseann Carpenter they can forever SMD is always my point i guess lmfaooooo #fyp

♬ original sound – Drew Afualo

The thread’s initial creator is yet to respond to Afualo’s explanation videos. It remains unclear if the original tweet was directed at anyone in particular. Afualo’s podcast, “The Comment Section” drops new episodes weekly on Spotify and Apple podcasts.

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